Sexually speaking, women have always bowed, bent and gone down on their knees for men. The whole prostitution, massage parlors, brothels, sex tourism, porn industries, Playboys, Hustlers, The Sun’s page 3 girls, foreign women dating services; Russian, Ukrainian, Baltic, East European and Asian Brides.COM are all designed for the male lust. Indeed catering to the male lust is an industry worth billions, internationally.
I’ve always believed that this one way gratification of lust has all to do with economics. Men have money and power. What bigger instance I can give you than probably the best known and loved romantic novel in modern times, ”Pride and Prejudice.” If you know the plot or story, you would know what I’m trying to say. But this is changing as women have their own purses and the power to fill them, though sometimes through gainful marriages. And divorces. *Kidding* But truly, there can be no women’s liberation without women’s own money and careers. Today, at least in the Western World women have achieved all this or have very good possibility of achieving all this.
So, the Romantic Landscape and Sexual scenery is changing. First I had read this story about a week ago (Click to read, ”Older White women join Kenya’s sex tourism”) about this burgeoning sex tourism in Kenya where rich (at least by Kenyan standards) Western women (well past their middle age) are holidaying in Kenya with their big, beautiful, black and young (18 to 24) boyfriends. They party, drink, have romantic dinners, go sight-seeing and of course sleep together. The boy gets new clothes, shoes, free beer, food and maybe also the ice cream, both to be eaten and used during the sex plays in the tropical heat of Kenya.
Here is yet another modern romance story from The Times of London (Click to read, ”I pay a man for regular sex”). I say romance because, interestingly, women make really compassionate and romantic sex buyers unlike most men who treat prostitutes just like they treat their girlfriends and wives. The lady in the article writes, ”Once, sometimes twice, a month I meet up with Justin, a 36-year-old divorcé. We go out for a meal and maybe to a club before spending the night in a hotel. I am a divorced mum and work part time to spend as much time as I can with my four children. Justin also has four children. But what differentiates our dates from the norm is that I pay for Justin’s company, including having sex with him… He costs £200 for an hour, £270 for three hours and £600 for overnight – and every penny is well spent.”
She also adds that, ”This way I’m very satisfied sexually, which makes me a much calmer and happier person, and I do like the secrecy element of this arrangement.”
So, what are your views on the first and the second modern romance story? To the (one in second story) woman’s credit, she is not buying sex (and romance) while she is cheating on someone, the kind of thing men often do when they buy sex, on the side. And besides, there is a very strong moral argument in favor of these women that they have the right to do their own thing as long as they are not hurting or corrupting the rest of the world. Also, they have the right to be happy–”…a much calmer and happier person.” Besides, financially speaking, this also sounds like a fair trade between two parties. It is also interesting that old romance or new romance, money always seems to be at the center of love, sex and romance etc.
really good